mardi 4 novembre 2014

What is "Self" in "Self Defense"?

Sorry- I was still thinking about Simon's thread;



http://ift.tt/1Acqkvo



I decided to include my spouse as a chat over dinner. She normally does not discuss martial arts, but she does, discuss violence, defense, especially when something comes on television or up for rhetorical discussion



After speaking with her on it, she decided to take a look/read on the thread. In her view, she stated that she would have anonymously phoned the police away from the view of the group while remaining inside the sanctuary of the business



That said, she remembered and reminded me of two (out of many) situations that she witnessed when we were together out for a social evening



The first one, was when a group of males, started exchanging threatening words to each other and it was starting physical. She was concerned and suggested that I "do something". But for me to do it without confrontation. From memory, I made a somewhat statement to her was it was best to not get involved. But she is one not liking to see such a display



I remembered that it took some short moments to gather my thoughts to find a solution. I went outside pretending I was going to my car, when I yelled; "Hey-stop, someone inside (pointed at a whole different business) called the police."



After a few other short verbal exchanges amongst each other, they dispersed



The second one (per our conversation), we were at a cafe when a guy and his girlfriend started to argue-loud and heavy. My wife kept nudging my leg under the table. The guy stood up, grabbed the girl and pushed her into a nearby wall and pulled back his fist. My wife stood up much faster than I, and that was my cue to intervene.



From a distance, I told the guy it was none of my business what they were arguing about, but I am not going to sit there and allow him to hit her. I told him to cool down. Realizing he was making a spectacle, he left without her. My wife, decided to talk to the girl, per "girl talk"



After a few minutes, the guy returned and they were off. We spotted them much later in a shopping mall giggling. As I passed, the guy gave me a stern frown as the girl gave my wife a smile



I don't know if self defense is the prevention/action of a situation for oneself or helping someone out of a situation. Wouldn't that make the "self" in self defense a misnomer or the situation a conundrum?




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